what i learnt this week 2017 :: WEEK 15

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As adults, we hold on to memories and archive many trinkets and keepsakes to make sure we don’t forget anything. We cling to the past as if it’s trying to leave us.

Children have not lived long enough to understand the passage of time and history; therefore, they have no need to cling to the past.

This lesson in impermanence is a great one. As an artist, I keep all my drawings and sketches even if I don’t like them… what is that about?!? I worry about the archival nature of my art supplies so that any work I make that I do like has a chance of surviving. Why do we hold on to thing so so very much?

A child does not cling on to things in the same way. A kid will make a painting and then happily rip it up. They don’t want you to throw it out but they don’t really think about saving, preserving and archiving it.

The same sense of impermanence is true of street artists who paint their masterpieces on public walls knowing full well that it will be tagged or painted over at any time. What drives people to work so hard for something that is not permanent? But then what is really permanent… life isn’t.
Maybe we’re focusing too much on holding onto the past and we should be focussing more on living right now.

Learn a lesson from the kids in our lives and try to let go of things in the past… don’t worry too much about saving every moment and choose to live in the impermanent now!

what i learnt this week 2017 :: WEEK 14

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This is an odd one for me to write as I am often found in the shade wearing a shirt.
I am kind of allergic to the sun. At least that’s the easy way to explain it. I have nerve damage that makes the sensation of the sun on my skin feel painful instead of enjoyable. At least that’s the case in Australia for most of the year except for early mornings or in the middle of winter.

I recently went on holidays to Hawaii and the sun did not hurt me as much there. Of course, in the middle of the day I wore my shirt to reduce sore skin but there were much larger chunks of the day that my bare skin could be touched by the sun’s rays and it was delightful.

Maybe it’s because I can’t usually get a lot of sun that this brief reprisal was such a delight. I do think however that most people are hiding from the sun… in their offices and locked away in their homes behind high fences and closed windows.

Although we do have to limit our sun exposure for health’s sake there are benefits from limited sun exposure. At the top of the list is that basking in a reasonable amount of sun is that it feels so bloody good. There is something our lizard brain revels in when we do it. If you feel like crap it makes you feel better… but like all good things it’s advisable to practice restraint. Small doses.

Now that I am home and the harsh Aussie sun once again hurts my skin for most of the day I am going to make a point of finding a few minutes a day to toast my fragile skin in the early morning or afternoon sun… I’m sure if it feels that good, it must be good for you :)

what i learnt this week 2017 :: WEEK 13

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One of humanities greatest strengths, and at the same time greatest weakness, is the belief deep down that we are never really going to die. This allows us to let go and enjoy life without freaking out every 5 minutes that it’s all coming to an end… but on the flip side, it also allows us to be lazy, complacent and able to watch life slip through our fingers without a sense of urgency.

We often think it would be a wonderful thing to be immortal, however if we did live forever we would have no need to get things done, achieve anything great, push out limits or even get out of bed in the morning.

The same way a deadline at school or college allows us to achieve great work, so does a deadline on our lives. Some of us are better at managing that than others.

I think I need a bit more urgency and drive to be able to do the things I want to do in this life… while others need a little bit more down time to appreciate what they’ve already got.

It is not an easy balance to strike however, if you know that you can adjust your levels of urgency and relaxation then maybe you can find a better level.

We don’t live forever so love, play and work hard… your expiry date might be sooner than you think so take this chance to find out what you’re made of instead of rotting away on the couch (FYI I see the irony of me writing this on my couch).

Check out my main man Neil deGrasse Tyson speak about the urgency of accomplishment that knowing we will one day die can bring… it’s not a doom and gloom thing, is a positive :)

what i learnt this week 2017 :: WEEK 12

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This is so simple but it is so true.

Some people are selfish with their joy… it’s almost as if they are scared that by sharing their joy it will somehow be diminished.

Joy is one of the only things in this life that is not diminished when shared… it is intact enhanced and grows every time it’s shared.

You never know if someone is having a bad day – despite how they present themselves – so drop some joy and let it spread… it might be just what someone needs to get through that day… and it might just come back to you multiplied.

Spread the JOY!

what i learnt this week 2017 :: WEEK 11

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Politicians in Australia are trying to cut costs and it looks like the next target they are trying to hit is education.

Education is one of the most important investments a family, community or a country can make. EDUCATION IS EVERYTHING. Without adequate funding for educators and students our future is very much in jeopardy.

If you look at Freakonomics – a method of applying economic theory to a variety of subjects and seeing how spending or saving in one generation can have knock on effects for years or decades to come – I hate to think what our current lack of spending on education will do to our future.

Dramatically cutting funding for public education will surely have a negative effect on our economy, politics and society in 20-30 year’s time.

Think about it… if you adequately educate your young people they will grow up to be well informed, curious and capable of questioning leadership. If you don’t properly fund education we will end up with a poorly educated population that will be less capable of standing up for their rights and beliefs… oh hold on… maybe that’s what the politicians want. Hmmmmm!

It’s all good and well to say that the best of the best will rise to the top and get access to scholarships but how can people get to that point. It takes a very good school, a passionate teacher, diligent parents and a well-funded and resourced education system or a combination of these. Removing adequate funding from the education system means that there is less chance of people reaching their potential. If you don’t have the opportunity to study then you won’t know if you’re any good at it.

Education should be for ALL not just the elite… let’s face it the rich or ‘elite’ get enough bonuses… those bonuses should not come at the cost of education for all.

what i learnt this week 2017 :: WEEK 9

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If you treat someone with disrespect, you are teaching them that they are not worth respect. If you teach someone that violence in a powerful currency then you can’t be surprised if they decide to use it. Violence is a cheap and easy power hit and quite often people don’t know any other way as it is all they have been taught.

I won’t harp on about video games + the normalisation of porn + the glorification of violence in film & TV (think Game of Thrones to name one) … that discussion has being going on for decades and I do think they have a HUGE part to play in the increase in violence in our society.

The NSW Police commissioner retired this week and as he left he commented that there has a rise in domestic violence and an increase in the number of women being killed by their partners. What the fuck is going on and how is this getting worse… surely it should be getting better.

Last year, ABC’s 4 Corners did a stunning expose on the abuse children were subjected to while incarcerated. The violence and abuse that the children were exposed to was breath-taking. Family members would say that their kids were never the same after being detained… they had been treated so poorly that they did not feel worthy of being back in society!

There is something really wrong with our justice system, people are often in more danger in jail than out in the community. There is a power imbalance and I don’t know how it can be fixed. Norway seems to have a good way of dealing with criminals. People who are incarcerated are treated with respect + have nice accommodation + a strict routine + the doors to their rooms are not locked + they are free to roam around the compound often taking up educational activities. The recidivism rate in Norway is less than 20% compared to Americas rate of more than 76%. It seems that there is some wisdom in treating people that they are worthy of respect. If you teach someone they’ve got nothing to lose then they’ve got nothing to live for and will not strive for a better future for themselves.

Be mindful of what we are teaching people around us… every action we take is influencing someone around us. It’s up to you to make sure it’s a positive influence.

what i learnt this week 2017 :: WEEK 8

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Sometimes you need to talk to someone about the issues swirling around your head and all you really want to do is talk… not listen to a bunch of solutions.

Have you ever sat down to talk to a friend or family member about something that is really bugging you and they come back with a simple and flippant solution before you’ve even got it all off your chest? Yup me too.

It’s right up there with mansplaining and almost all men will happily give you a practical solution without knowing the full set of circumstances you have to deal with. Perhaps this is one of the reasons we need to speak to our girlfriends to stay sane.

There are times for discussion and there are times for release. Granted it is hard to tell them apart. I too am guilty of offering simple solutions to complex problems I don’t fully understand, but I’m trying to get better at just listening.

I once read of an ancient cultural practice of finding a rock, telling that rock all of your problems and then throwing the rock away. I really like this idea as shows a good understanding of our need as humans to unburden ourselves. Often it’s the act of talking about our troubles that gives us the most relief. In saying the words out loud we can often see our own way out.

Some people do take advantage of this and complain all the time… I am not referring to those people. They suck and should be avoided at all cost!

So the next time someone close to you is pouring their heart out, take a breath and look at the situation. Ask yourself if they need to get something off their chest or really wanting your opinion. I’m sure with practice we can all get better at identifying when our sage advice needed.

what i learnt this week 2017 :: WEEK 7

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cectimm_WILTW_2017_Week7Every day we pretend to be stronger than we think we are. Everyone is fighting a battle of some kind, but most people slap a smile on their face and get on with their day. This is one aspect of strength being a performance.

Think of all the times you pretend to be strong… you fall over in the street and get up, pretend to be fine even though you’re dying on the inside and your butt really really hurts… when someone you love betrays you and you act as if your heart is not breaking but it’s really really breaking… you’re in heaps of pain and you must carry on as if everything is right in the world even though you really really want to curl up under a doona and cry.

I often wonder who we are performing for. On the one had we act strong so that others will think that everything is alright, for example if there is an accident some of us will try to keep it together so that everyone else will feel that everything will be ok. But there is another side to strength as a performance… it’s the performance we do for ourselves. I live with a lot of pain and often pretend that everything is fine, even if it isn’t. It’s about pretending that you can do something until you can… fake it till you make it.

However, we can go too far though and many people pretend everything is alright when they are falling apart on the inside… therefore it’s important to take notice of our family and friends asking them every now and then if they are ok.

The hard part is finding the sweet spot where we are pretending just enough to get us through but not so much that we’re covering up our decent into madness.

Strength is a performance and some of us are better actors than others.

what i learnt this week 2017 :: WEEK 6

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Now let’s get one thing straight… I’m not a think happy thoughts and unicorns and rainbows will suddenly fill your day’s kind of person. That’s a bunch of crap.

While what we think is not going to karmically change the world… it does influence our health and wellbeing. However, being around negative people and things has a negative effect on us.

Much like a rotten apple will spread rot to adjacent apples… supremely negative people in your life will spread their negativity to you.

It can be difficult to eliminate negative people in your life as some might be in your family. Try your best to do all you can to reduce their influence on you. Avoid negative colleges, don’t call back old friends who only bring doom and gloom to the table and do your best to minimise your exposure to relatives who have nothing nice to say.

It has been proven that negativity is bad for your health… now that we know that, it’s time to make moves to reduce our own negativity and our exposure to that of others.

Be positive and repel the influence of the negative Nelly’s who want to bring you down to their shitty dark level. There is a lot of good stuff out there in the world… choose to focus on that :)

what i learnt this week 2017 :: WEEK 5

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There is so much talk about our core and how having a strong core is good for us… but is it really? Yes, it bloody well is.

I recently read a fascinating article about Why One Neuroscientist Started Blasting His Core and I’m totally convinced… it’s all about the core.

There is a lot of anecdotal evidence that a strong core is beneficial for our physical and mental health, but now there is the proof… scientists have shown a direct neural connection between the nerves in our gut and the part of our brain that deals with stress.

If I asked you to impersonate someone who was depressed, you would likely slump over… there is a reason for that. Someone who is depressed feels so terrible about everything that they can’t even sit up straight to greet the world. This may be more than a side effect. Maybe having weak core muscles plays a part in depression or generally feeling bad.

“There’s all this evidence that core strengthening has an impact on stress. And when you see somebody that’s depressed or stressed out, you notice changes in their posture. When you stand up straight, it has an effect on how you project yourself and how you feel.  Well, lo and behold, core muscles have an impact on stress. And I suspect that if you activate core muscles inappropriately with poor posture, that’s going to have an impact on stress.” – Peter Strick a distinguished professor and chair of the department of neurobiology at the University of Pittsburgh Brain Institute.

A strong core also has other benefits like a stronger back, good posture, improved balance, less injuries, organs are happier with good posture rather than being all squished together and you look a hell of a lot thinner when you stand tall.

So get moving no matter how horrible you feel. Do it just because you have to and maybe eventually you’ll end up enjoying it. Get yourself a strong core and stand up tall to meet the world.

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what i learnt this week 2017 :: WEEK 4

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There is a Chilean saying “que rico es quejar” which translates to it’s lovely to complain.

I grew up hearing this saying (being the massive wog that I am) but as it turns out… it is not true. Complaining is BAD (said in the voice of Mr Mackey from South Park who always says ‘Drugs are bad’).

In 2004 I attended a pain clinic to learn how to live with chronic pain. One of the first things they taught us was that pain responds to attention and the more attention you give it the more pain you will have. It is a downward spiral. This is the reason you will rarely hear me complain about how much bloody pain I am in… it just doesn’t do you any good.

I recently read an article in The Huffington Post titled How Complaining Rewrites Your Brain for Negativity and it was fascinating to learn how bad complaining is for your overall health.

Just like smoking, eating sugar and doing other bad stuff… it feels good to complain. Our brains are very efficient and the more we do an action the more likely we are to keep doing it – as neuroscientists like to say “neurons that fire together, wire together.” It’s what makes our brains so efficient. This efficiency applies to both good and bad behaviour and habits.

So if you complain a lot, then you will continue to complain a lot and it will only get worse. Complaining can also shrink your hippocampus (the part of your brain responsible for problem solving and intelligent thought). Think about that for a minute.

Complaining can also lead to increased blood pressure and blood sugar thanks to the release of the stress hormone cortisol. Excessive exposure to cortisol can also impact your immune system, increases the risk of high cholesterol, diabetes, heart attack and weight gain leading to obesity.

So instead of feeling like a failure because you didn’t lose the weight you wanted to, take stock of your complaining habits and start to make some changes. It might be just as important as doing exercise or eating well.

In short, complaining is bad for your health, shrinks your brain, makes you fat and most likely makes you difficult to be around… time to reconsider mindless complaining.

You can read the article here.

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what i learnt this week 2017 :: WEEK 3

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I remember being in primary school and having to look forward to the year 2000… it seemed like it was so far into the future (and it was). I remember trying to imagine what my life would be like and what the world would be like… I never imagined that 17 years after that distant landmark in time we would still have to protest for women’s rights.

What the fuck has gone wrong that we are still having to fight for basic rights and equality. It’s difficult to create change, I get that, but I think we’ve waited long enough.

I’ve learnt a bit about the male perspective by talking to the men in my life. Some men are dismissive of the comments and treatment women still have to put up with on a daily basis… while others who are the “good guys” who see women as equal can get frustrated with the talk of feminism because they feel like they are being blamed for bad behavior that they themselves don’t contribute to.

I’m not saying I have the answer but we have to change something… I recently said to a bunch of women that I was a born a feminist and a woman in her 20’s and another in their 60’s said “Oh but I like men”.

They might have well punched me in the pussy. Seriously? What the fuck has one thing got to do with another? Really? This shit again!

The dictionary definition of feminism is “the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes”. Women’s rights meaning that women want EQUAL rights to men… not more… and we’ve put up with less for far too long.

We have to change the script… feminists want equality… that’s all.

Every single person on this earth was grown inside a woman’s body… that means that every single person on this planet should be in awe of the amazing physical strength that the average woman possesses to make + grow + birth + bring up a life. This is somehow viewed as a weakness for women rather than one of the greatest displays of adaptability and strength in the natural world.

If you hate women then you hate yourself… because you came from a woman.

I am a feminist (a natural born feminist) and I love men… these beliefs are not mutually exclusive. It’s 2017 already and it’s about time we fixed this centuries old problem.

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what i learnt this week 2017 :: WEEK 2

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We have all fallen for food fads… it seems to be unavoidable in the developed world. Gluten free, Paleo, Kale… the list goes on. The truth is that these fads only serve one purpose… they make a couple of people a lot of money… that is until the next fad comes along.

Let’s examine some recent fads…

  • Kale: people lost their minds over kale… however, long term people did not see a lot of benefit and it was later revealed that you can have too much kale… some people experienced low level poisoning and mental issues.
  • Coconut oil: I went hard on coconut oil when the fad was at its peak. What I didn’t realise at the time was that it was extremely high in salicylates… something that I have a severe intolerance too. There are benefits to eating good fats but too much coconut oil can lead to an increase in blood cholesterol.
  • Gluten free: I was gluten free for 5 years (prior to finally figuring out what it was I was allergic to) but the benefits of this diet fad is not what you would think, unless you are a true coeliac. For me it was moving away from heavily processed foods that benefited me the most.
  • Turmeric: last year people lost their minds about the health benefits of turmeric. It is meant to cure all kinds of things… it has just been revealed that it is very difficult for our bodies to absorb the beneficial molecules and that the effects are not as great as first reported.
  • Paelo: there is so much wrong with this fad including the fact that Palaeolithic ‘man’ cultivated and ate potatoes and judging by Palaeolithic art… they had their own weight problems. The long term effects of this diet on cholesterol and heart health is untested and the benefits are usually derived from eating less processed food and cutting out sugary drinks (which anyone can do).
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An example of Palaeolithic people represented in their art… it seems that weight was an issue back then LOL

There seems to be a bit of a theme in all of this… STOP FOLLOWING FOOD FADS. You don’t need to change your lifestyle and diet every time a celebrity chef or beauty blogger writes about the benefits of the NEXT BIG THING.

Eat sensibly, eat what you need… nothing more and incorporate aspects of the only scientifically proven diet known to man… the Mediterranean diet. Lets spend our precious energy on things that will really improve our lives like following our dreams or finding new ways to connect with family and friends. FUCK FOOD FADS!

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what i learnt this week 2017 :: WEEK 1

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The New Year brings with it so much hope… hope of better things to come, hope of change. Who is bringing that change into your life? What are you doing to make your life better?

We all seem to forget that our time on this planet is finite and we plod along in jobs we hate, making money for things we don’t really need, to impress people we don’t even like. Nothing in your life will change in the way you want it to unless YOU CHANGE SOMETHING. Think about it.

Many of us have heard the saying that insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Then it’s up to you to get different results… by doing something different… taking a calculated risk… mixing things up… being your own hero.

So many of us wait for a prince to come and save the day… wouldn’t it be lovely if a strong, stoic and good looking man (or woman depending on what you’re into) swept you off your feet and fixed all of your problems… including the leaking tap. Well that’s not going to happen. Chances are the guy that sweeps in and saves the day has an agenda and might well be a control freak who will take over your life.

Don’t waste your time waiting for someone to save you. Don’t waste anther day wishing your life was different. MAKE IT DIFFERENT. CHANGE SOMETHING… ANYTHING… TODAY!

So go to the hardware store and buy a new washer and learn how to fix your own leaky tap… make a change for the better so that you can make sure 2017 is the year you don’t make empty promises to yourself… make it the year you started making things happen, FOR YOURSELF.

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what i learnt this YEAR:: 2016

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As Soul II Soul said in the late 80’s… Keep on moving!

There is a lot of wisdom in this lyric… motion and movement leads to getting shit done. I have a lot of issues with energy and pain… it’s a daily thing and I don’t get a break. There are really bad days that are difficult and I can’t get much done… but thankfully those days are no longer as frequent as they used to be. I made a deal with myself, regardless of the kind of day I’m having, I have to get shit done. Irrespective of the type of day I’m having I have to start work (of any kind) by midday.

I might have to work from my bed, I might only get a little bit done, I might work through till 9pm and get an extraordinary amount of work done… but I have to start by midday. This deal with myself lead to 2016 being one of the most prolific and productive years I’ve had in more than a decade. I didn’t realise how big the impact of this action would be, but it has been an overwhelmingly positive one.

This can apply to people with good health and normal energy levels as well… at the end of the day after a long day’s work you don’t have to sit on the couch watching TV every night. You too can keep moving so that you can get more shit done. We all need to get more out of life other than our 9-5 jobs.

There is another application of the ‘keep moving’ principal. Our bodies are not made for a sedentary life. Our bodies – healthy or injured -respond well to movement. Arthritis responds well to movement with joints getting stuff and sore if still for too long. Bad backs are much better when our bodies are moved throughout the day. Fatigue is lessened when we don’t give into it and rest more. It seems that everything is just better when we stay active and KEEP MOVING.

Nothing gets done unless you do it yourself… so what are you waiting for… keep moving and start getting shit done.

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what i learnt this week 2016 :: WEEK 52

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Perhaps harking back to an earlier #WhatILearntThisWeek post – week 37 – referring to people not believing that they deserve good things… this belief of little self-worth goes on to inform what people dream for themselves.

Any great success starts with a dream. Even someone buying a lottery ticket has a dream… and one in a billion players do win (for some reason it’s never me). A dream does not mean success… the dream is the first step in a long long journey. A dream is just the beginning… but without the dream you can’t succeed.

A lot of people won’t even allow themselves to dream big or otherwise. The lack of dreamability is a sign of a depressed soul. If someone believes they don’t deserve good things or success of any kind, they will never allow themselves to dream at all.

Try to put your feelings about yourself aside and come up with a big dream and work towards it. Put that dream up on your bedroom wall, office door, phone lock screen or computer desktop. Write a plan of what you need to do to get there and start taking baby steps. It doesn’t matter if it takes you a month or five years to get to your dream… if you don’t allow yourself to dream it then you will never be able to realise  your dream.

A dream could be as simple as a holiday to Hawaii, a small home based business or global domination… it’s up to you how big or small your dream should be… but commit to a dream and start doing the work.

There are a lot of arsehats out there with less talent than you who have had experienced raging success. There is no fixed rule stating who deserves and who doesn’t deserve success… just start working towards yours and make the magic happen.

You never know, with enough time, hard work and determination you might just get there. DREAM BIG PEOPLE!

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what i learnt this week 2016 :: WEEK 51

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Our experience of the world has a lot to do with our approach to it. Some people are negative and assume that everyone is out to get them… but I’m here to tell you that you are not the centre of the universe and not everything is about you (or me). I think it is safe to assume that most people are doing their best.

One day after a long day I was super super tired. My legs were heavy and it was difficult to walk. I crossed the street at a pedestrian crossing and it seemed I wasn’t walking fast enough for the man in the white van waiting for me to cross. He stuck his head out the window and started screaming all manner of horrible horrible abuse at me. I told him I was going as fast as I could but he kept screaming at me… I was too shocked to smash in his windscreen but why did he assume that I was trying to fuck up his day… who would do that? Maybe he would? At that moment I was really doing my best.

I can’t imagine how exhausting it must be to walk around all day assuming that everyone is out to get you or trying to make your day worse. I imagine that people who do that would end up being really tired and cranky by the end of the day.

Perhaps my physical limitations have given me an advantage. I cannot afford to waste energy worrying about what other people are planning, plotting or thinking. It is much more energy efficient for me just cruise through my day assuming that everyone is doing their best. Chances are they are… at least for right now. Who knows what is going on in their life that is effecting them… what they are doing is their best in that moment.

So do your best and assume that everyone else is also doing their best. Who on earth has the energy to do otherwise (and if you have the secret to boundless energy… please share it with me).

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what i learnt this week 2016 :: WEEK 50

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Christmas is either a wonderful or terrible time for people… a lot of this depends on their family and past experiences.

I am very lucky… I have an amazing family and we are all on the same page when it comes to Christmas. We all work hard to make it a very VERY fun and special celebration. We trim our trees together, we prepare the food together, we decorate the house together and we give very generously to each other. A lot of hard work results in an amazing few days where we celebrate our love for each other.

I know this is not true for a lot of people. This kind of joy depends on all parties coming to the table with the right attitude and this is often not the case. Most families have at least one drama queen that wrecks Christmas for everyone… luckily we no longer have drama queens in our family unit. Some people work very hard to have a great Christmas and there is usually some arse hat that tries to wreck it for everyone.

I also love the days between Christmas and New Year when we don’t know what day it is and we can survive on left overs and chocolate. It is one of my favorite times of the year. I love getting bored with my family and friends. I don’t see boredom as a bad thing… I mean that you spend enough time together that you end up playing cards, or bingo or go for another swim. It’s not about answering the phone, checking text messages, answering work emails, checking bank account balances… by now I’m ignoring my phone, only texting good mates, not answering any emails and I know my bank accounts are empty so it’s all good 😛

Christmas 2016 has ended up being another great triumph in the life of Team Bonnet Bay… we work hard together and we party hard together. I wish everyone could have such an amazing family… I know how lucky I am.

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what i learnt this week 2016 :: WEEK 49

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My mum recently bought my niece a bean bag for Christmas… it was a really nice one and it was for her to have a comfy spot to read in her bedroom. So of course we had to fill it. We had been warned about the difficulties of filling up a bean bag and how the beans have a mind of their own. I took these cautionary tales as a challenge and decided that I was going to be the best bean bag filler upper of ALL TIME.

Mum and I bought the recommended 2 large bags of bean bag beans and set about filling the lining bag. We were so cautious, cutting only a small slit in the plastic bag of bean bag beans. Mum kept the mouth of the lining bag tight around the emptying bag and like the world class champions that we are we managed to empty two massive beans into the bag only spilling one bean. I REPETE, JUST THE ONE BEAN. I know… it is miraculous.

Disappointingly, the bag was not full enough and a few days later I bought some more beans to top up the bag.

This time when we went to fill up the lining bag it was a different story. Despite using the same technique we failed miserably. The beans crept up the lining bag… we were watching them try to escape and there was NOTHING we could do about it. They seemed to have a mind of their own. Beans were flying out in every direction. The dogs came running into the room to chase the beans and we had to yell at them to get out of the room. We were covered in beans, the bean bag was covered in beans (on the outside) and the room was covered in beans.

We had done nothing differently… but what had gone wrong? We had not taken into account the weather. The first time we had so successfully emptied two bags without incident, it was raining heavily and the hair was thick with humidity. This second time the day was incredibly dry and the beans seemed to take advantage of the static electricity, using it to creep out of any available opening… making a break for freedom.

So there it is… regardless of your skill level or tried and tested techniques… try to only fill bean bags on humid days and avoid sudden madness 😛

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what i learnt this week 2016 :: WEEK 48

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I’m a really open person and I’m usually pretty difficult to shock… although I am not unshockable.

I don’t mind people swearing around me (god knows I swear like a trooper) but I do have a problem swearing at people rather than around them. There is something really aggressive about swearing at a person rather than at a situation.

At the same time I don’t mind people telling dirty jokes (especially if they are really funny) and I totally get pushing the boundaries for a laugh… but there are some boundaries I don’t like people crossing.

A bloke I know recently spoke about his ‘junk’ for want of a better word and what he wanted to do with it… he was trying to be funny (he failed at that) and he also being serious (creepy as fuck). It shocked me… I don’t often get shocked… it takes a lot to shock me but this did. If it was his intention to make me feel uncomfortable then he succeeded. If it was his intention to make me see him in a different light then he also succeeded at that (although I don’t think he planned on me seeing him as a creep).

So think about your humour and how specific it is… it might be best to keep it general and not aimed at a person… you might think you’re being really funny but chances are you’ll come across as an out of touch jerk.

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