We often think we know enough about a topic. You may know the headlines but do you really know everything? No you don’t. You could learn something new, get some insight into a philosophy or gain an understanding of something you’ve never allowed yourself to consider before. So try to open your mind, close your mouth and listen… you never know what you might learn.[su_button url="http://cectimm.com/what-i-learnt-this-week/" background="#fc1581" size="5" icon="icon: plus-circle"]See ALL #WhatILearntThisWeek[/su_button] [su_button url="/blog/what-i-learnt-this-week-week-25/" background="#fc1581" size="5" icon="icon: arrow-circle-right"]See the NEXT #WhatILearntThisWeek[/su_button]
DREAMS: Do you have a bucket list? What is on your bucket list? When will you start ticking things off? Ask them if they could do anything, what would it be? What did they dream of when they were a child that they still haven't done. You never know, by having this discussion they might actually start planning their own dream fulfilment. Also, you might find that you have some dreams in common.
For each of these points, the key is to listen. If you listen to their answer then you will know what to talk about next. Too often people talk and don't listen. You've got two ears and one mouth so try to use them accordingly... it makes for better conversation.
So, the next time you're stuck in a going nowhere conversation, remember FORD and see for yourself how these simple talking points can bring us all a bit closer to understanding each other.
Have you noticed that nobody is listening? You probably haven't, as you're too busy talking. There has been a fundamental shift in our collective attention spans as we are constantly bombarded with images, text and sounds from every angle. There are so many things competing for our attention that we have forgotten how to have a conversation. Notice in use of the world 'exchanged' in the definition of conversation. It indicates that the talking is two way... not a monologue. I have partaken in a lot of monologues lately and I'm not the one doing all the monologuing. I keep getting talked at more and more. I have finished 3o minute phone calls and realised that I contributed nothing (not for lack of trying). I have caught up with friends to only later realise that after the compulsory 'how are you going' greeting there was no discussion of my life, my dreams, my views or me. . Am I doing something wrong? Are people using mates as free therapy? Can we please go back to a two-way discussion? The next time you have a chat with someone just sit back and observe what is going on. Are you overrunning the conversation and not letting anyone else chime in? Or are not getting a word in? Whichever one you are, something has to change. Maybe you could be direct and let your friends or family know that you desire conversation and not to be talked at. Or maybe you can make a point of stopping your mouth for a moment and letting someone else fill the space with noise. There is a lot to be gained from good conversation. We can learn from our friend's points of view... even if we don't agree with them. Try to have a conversation today... an exchange of ideas. You might enjoy it! Get in touch via Twitter, Instagram or by email :) [su_button url="/my-work/what-i-learnt-this-week-2016/" style="flat" background="#fc1581" color="#ffffff" size="5" icon="icon: plus-circle"]All #WhatILearntThisWeek 2016[/su_button] [su_button url="/blog/what-i-learnt-this-week-2016-week-9/" style="flat" background="#01d801" color="#ffffff" size="5" icon="icon: arrow-circle-right"]Read the NEXT #WhatILearntThisWeek[/su_button] [su_button url="/my-work/what-i-learnt-this-week/" style="flat" background="#0097ff" color="#ffffff" size="5" icon="icon: hand-o-left"]See 2015's #WhatILearntThisWeek[/su_button]