It can feel like we're fighting arseholes all the time... let's face it, chances are we are. There are a lot of big egos out there that we have to deal with on a daily basis but the only we have to control is our own.
a person's sense of self-esteem or self-importance.
"he needed a boost to his ego"
The ego is a funny thing... it's hard to get your head around as it's intangible, essential and potentially problematic.
The ego is the part of our psyche that facilitates belief in yourself. It allows us to take chances, believe in our ability to get shit done and we need it to keep pushing forward in life. Getting a handle on our own ego is a lifelong process and as our circumstances change we need to adjust it accordingly. This process of adjustment and change is mainly subconscious but we can at times be aware of it.
Without our ego, we would get nothing done. Trouble comes when we try to control other people's egos instead of our own.
We have no rights or control over other people's egos. While we can influence people, who are in our circle, we cannot control their ego. That is up to them. That is their responsibility. But many of us waste waaaaay too much time trying to tame others people's egos.
The sooner we can let go of our desire to reign in other people's egos and focus on refining our own, the sooner we can get on with the business of living our own lives.