I went to Melbourne recently and everyone was really nice and polite. It seemed to be in contrast with my recent retail experiences in Sydney. I’m not buying into the whole Sydney v Melbourne debate but I did notice a difference in the level of courtesy.
Every shop and art gallery I went into people said hello, good bye and thank you for coming. It struck me as strange which means that I’m no longer accustomed to hearing it. I try to make a point of having good manners as you never know if someone is having a really bad day and the smallest of courtesies can make them feel much better.
– the showing of politeness in one’s attitude and towards others.
Courtesy is sexy – at least it is to me. The opposite is also true. A strapping lad can go from hero to zero with one inconsiderate comment to a shop assistant. I judge someone more by the way they treat other people than by what they’re wearing and how much money they earn. Once on a date I was totally turned off they guy because he was overtly rude to a waiter who had done nothing wrong. It’s that instant.
Someone going out of their way to help an old lady up some stairs, a manager who chooses to speak to a junior staff member with kindness and a driver who lets a pedestrian cross despite who has right of way are my kind of people. It’s not even a matter of good or bad breeding. It’s simple human kindness. It’s treating people the way you would like to be treated. If you feel good when someone says thank you… then say thank you to people who have done a kindness to you.
Courtesy is sexy… it might just get you across the line.