The best thing you can make sure you have in life is an amazing base. What is an amazing base I hear you ask? It’s a safe place filled with people who love and support you. This may be your family of birth or your family of choice or a blend of both but it’s the people who prop you up in life who know you can do better and encourage you to shine.
Barbara Streisand said it best with the lyrics “People, people who need people, are the luckiest people in the world.” Humans are pack animals and as much as we would like to think that we could be 100% independent, the truth is we need people and at the same time ‘people’ need us. So it’s best to choose who these people will be and not just let fate dictate.
When I was younger I let people choose me… if someone liked me that was enough for me to accept them into my life. I ended up with a large and eclectic group of friends and they weren’t necessary good for me. Some people make themselves feel better by putting you down, don’t encourage you to be your best self or are happiest when you’re down. It takes time to figure out what a good friend is and what qualities you need and want in your nearest and dearest.
On the flip side, just because you are related to someone it does not automatically guarantee that they want what is in your best interest. Being related is not enough to guarantee a seat at your “inner circle” table. Sometimes we have to distance ourselves from relatives who put us down, feel threatened by our dreams or success and make us feel bad about ourselves.
I can honestly say that 90% of everything about me that is awesome is directly influenced by the ‘knights of the Cecilia table’ – the people I hold close and trust with my dreams and ideas. Some members are blood relatives and others are family of choice. I know I can stand up in the world and share my thoughts, illustrations and words with you because I have this amazing base.
I wish everyone had an amazing base because you can do so much more than you dreamed possible if you have a team of backers and advisors pushing you forward.
Start curating your own “inner circle” table and choose wisely 😛