I find it interesting that some people will complain about a gift they received… perhaps they have forgotten about the real meaning of giving.

a thing given willingly to someone without payment; a present.

A gift is something that is supposedly given willingly as in its voluntary. However, society has evolved and there is a lot of obligatory gift-giving these days and this can lead to tension and resentment.

Some people are better at giving gifts than others but we don’t only give gifts. We also give our time, attention, friendship and love.

In a perfect world, we would all give the same amount and no one would lose but that’s not how life works.

My cousin recently said something that made a lot of sense… people are either fountains or drains. It is such a perfect description of how people can be givers or takers. I am sure at different times in our life we are fountains and then at other times, we can be drains. At the end of the day, it’s the average of give and take that matters.

The next time you feel like someone isn’t giving you enough, ask yourself… what have you given? do you really deserve more than your getting? are you being a drain and not a fountain? Think about it!